Tuesday, August 12, 2014

Why we do what we do

When hard times come, what do we do? Why do we bake, paint our nails, wear teal, gray, blue... or any other color??? Why do we run or obsess over our health? Why do we buy people things, take them food??? Everyone deals with grief and pain differently, we all have our "go to's". I paint my nails... yes, it's frivolous and really doesn't "help" anyone BUT it helps me not bite my nails off and reminds me to pray. I bake, I love to bake and for the most part people need to eat. Some people retreat, some need to talk it out, some do both at different times (sometimes minutes apart).

With all the things going on in the world... sad, heartbreaking, horrible things... what do we DO??? See, here is where the problem is... we feel we have to DO something. WE want to feel in control. The other morning I was drying my hair and my hair dryer quit. Jeffrey says "lemme see that". He takes the end off and says "here's the problem". He cleans out all the dust and muck, put it back together and viola! My hair dryer was fixed! It hit me... we want to fix it! It feels so good to have a problem/issue and then FIX it! It's our nature! But... how do you fix a broken heart? How do you cure cancer? How do you fix a broken marriage? We can't! So then what are we supposed to do??? We sit and do nothing right, I mean, if we aren't in control and we can't fix it well then what????? This, my friends is where the fight is... do what you can, where you can, when you can and the rest... you have to let go - OUCH! That hurts just typing it out... let it go (ya got it in your head don't ya??? you're welcome) God in all His sovereignty has it under control! So do we stick our heads in the sand and pretend we are living in a fairy tale??? Well, you could I guess but all fairy tales have witches, goblins or wicked stepmoms so good luck with that too! Here's where I want to challenge (only because I'm being challenged). Why is it we look at how everyone else deals with grief/pain/heartache/life's problems as "how could they?" but continue to DO our thing? It seems there is little understanding for how we each tick. Let me say this... it's free... NO ONE ON THIS EARTH IS PERFECT!!! That means, every single one of us even though we act like we are a spiritual giant who can handle all of the world's problems and more... we can't! At some point - we are weak. At some point - we fall. I don't want you to have blinders on about me. See... when life gets hard, I don't always immediately sit down and read the Bible and seek God's face. I don't always talk to my husband correctly and love him like I should. I am not the perfect homeschool mom who always deals with my boys exactly how I should. I'm a mess... I'm a God-fearing mess. I strive with all that is in me to make the right choices and do the right things but I'M A MESS! If you can accept that then please... come join me because I am not going to think you are perfect and if you act like you are... you're lying! Can God give supernatural peace, strength and comfort??? Of course He can... I've felt it, I know it's there. I also know that no human being can live this fallen life without falling. So people out there (all 2 of you) please be gentle! Please be understanding! Facebook can be so good and so bad! I've watched how people rant and release stress, grieve, express pain... and others don't say a word but you know they are aching. Others live in their own world and they are ok with that. Why can't we have understanding???? To understand and have compassion is worth a million dollars!!!! We can't fix it! We can love!

OH... and laugh! God made laughter! I know it's hard with so much pain and suffering to find the joy in things... but they are there, trust me!
If you are having a hard time finding something to laugh about... lemme help ya...

Did you know a person could have that many chins?????
Life is short y'all! Do what you can, when you can, where you can! oh and that cliche... live, love, laugh... might hold some truth :) I hate cliches LOL